Pregnancy isn't a smooth process throughout. What's more when you have morning sickness or even down with bad cough and flu. But one thing I'm glad of.. he showed the concern and commitment :)
He didn't act it out.
He waits for me when he sees the wet floor. Even if he is carrying loads of stuffs, he will lift his elbow slightly to signal me to hold on to him.
He tries to sit in check-ups with me and he even asks questions. He told the gynae about my stretchmarks too! Not only so, he asked the gynae if there is any good brand of stretchmark cream, knowing that I'm already applying Bio Oil which my sis purchased for me. So now, I'm actually starting to use the stretchmark cream purchased from my gynae's clinic ^^
He stays home just to be with me when I'm too tired to go out. We led some kind of night life previously.. especially when weekends come around, going out during late nights and coming home at wee hours isn't anything special or out of the blue. But after my tummy gets bigger, and my physical health gets weaker, he will turn down any meetups (though I know he really wish to go out).
He wakes up in the middle of the night to fetch me water or prepare food if I'm hungry. He asks whenever I wake up and sit up in the middle of the night too.
He looks into the facebook group, Buzzy Tots, which his friends invited us into. He checks out the items and managed to got our baby girl a brand new pack of nappy cloth at a cheaper price. He also gotten her mittens and a diaper bag with warmer.
He shops baby stores and he initiates the shopping. He looks at the items in store and reads those necessities labels. He asks if I need more disposable breast pad, even though they are already included in the breast pump package we bought. He even kept saying I need the cooling pad to ease engorgement and kept asking if I want to get one. He looks at baby clothings and chooses cute mittens, booties, hats, towels, blankets, pacifier, etc for her. He is also, very, very into getting toys for her~! He said they will be stimulating to the child.
He waits for me to shop at the one stop baby store he saw at JB (I was at work when he went JB with his parents in the afternoon). He types down the list of milk powders and the price and even told me that the price is cheaper! He compared one of the brands and he actually knew the rough price of that milk powder brand when I know nothing :/ He took the breastfeeding cloth when we were shopping at the JB store and said I would need it. He even searched for the brand of baby sling which another Mommy on Buzzy Tot recommended to him. In addition, he looks into buying a bumper as he insists that there are some metal rods by the sides of the playpen and it will be better to get a bumper. And, he looks at cute designs of course :D
He asks me to trim my fingernails when he sees me applying the newly purchased stretchmark cream. He warned me not to scratch it and 'threatens' jokingly to tie up my hands if I do so. He told me to apply a lil' more cream instead if it gets itchy.
He asks first before purchasing any herbal teas. He ensures that it is safe for consumption during pregnancy.
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I sense it in him. The kind of commitment.. the effort he puts in. They are not of a fake concern.
Probably, you might say he is just excited as a first-time dad. But I reckon, he is going to be a great daddy who takes care of his child. It is something in him which make me feel so. He shows those concern genuinely and it is just... it's just in him. Something that comes up from the inner self. (if you get what I mean)
I don't have a romantic proposal, a gorgeous wedding dinner, a luxurious apartment. But I know what I do have.. and I'm very much contented. A family I call my own. Supportive family members, relatives and friends. Without them, it isn't going to be easy too. And here, I really gotta say a BIG BIG "Thank You" !
To all mommies-to-be, have a smooth delivery! Cheers!
